Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Alpha Male


So my brother and I are driving home from Frack's lacrosse game on Sunday; his son and my son in the back seat. We're having our usual back and forth, funny banter when we have a slight disagreement about some random fact. After a couple of simple, "no that's not right's." my brother says, "Calm down alpha male, You're doing way too much talking." And it hits me.
Am I the alpha male? My response to him, "whatever.." because I'm sure I was right about the random fact anyway. You know how one of you siblings or a family member says something to you or about you and it makes you think? Especially one that has the birth order edge over you. So I thought about it.
I have been a little on edge lately. Shit, I got a lot going on right now, but so does everyone. My Guy told me I seemed a little on edge lately, too. So why does this make me the alpha male? The alpha male is dominant. Am I dominant? (insert dominatrix joke here)
  • I think all mothers have a somewhat dominant role within the home. Like the female lion, it is my job to feed my family and nurture them.
  • I am a small business owner and employer and as such I assume a dominant role in my career. I have to take on a confident role in building my brand and creating a demand for my product or I will not survive.
  • I work hard and I play hard, which is why I get mad hard. I live for the passion. Sometimes I'm like the Celtics Big Baby Davis; drooling, but I don't care.
  • I have a short fuse,but I think I am learning, through owning my own business, to apply critical thinking to a problem instead of emotion. The results are always better.
  • I have a lot going on at the moment and I'm trying to be all things to all people. If the dominant skills are helping to keep me on track, then so be it.

You know the more I think about it, the more I think my brother could be absolutely right! I could possibly be the alpha male...Moody, bossy, and in charge. Here I am juggling more than a few plates in the air and getting no appreciation from him. Thanks, man.

So in my best Alpha Male voice, I should have ended the entire discussion simply and told my brother to, " shut up and bring me my paper."

12 comments:

wigsf said...

Sounds like you're ready for your honorary penis.

Jim said...

Lol . . . so you think you DO wear the pants in your family . . .

[sigh] That's fine. If your guy is just a little apprehensive about what his married life-to-come may be like, just have him e-mail me. I've been sharing my den with a mama lion for 20 years now ;-)

XO

The Dental Maven said...

I sure do hate the negative stereotypes assigned to strong, confident women. In the end...I think men don't really know what they want!

The Vegetable Assassin said...

Maybe you've suddenly grown balls? It would explain your discomfort after all, therefore your mood! See? Call me Doc.

Heff said...

You could dominate my ass ANYTIME, Honey.

SkylersDad said...

I smolder for a long time letting little things bother me until something stupid sets me off. Not a good way to be, I'm working on it.

What? I am, really!

Chris@Knucklehead! said...

Just use the phrase that I call on whenever Theresa steps out of line...

"Quiet, woman, and make me some pie."

Okay, I don't really say that, but it would be cool.

madtexter (corey james) said...

Hey, somebody's gotta wear the pants, and I'm sure you wear them well - designer, of course.

I'm the youngest in my family and I've always been the pushiest and most domineering. Well, maybe not so much domineering as opinionated!

Slyde said...

i have a short fuse as well. i am a big pushover way too long, then i redline and go postal.. there's no middle with me.

Scope said...

Candy, I have heard recently that a mother's job is to be the caring nurturer, and she should never raise her voice to her children. Being the disciplinarian is the father's role.

This was from a mother of 4 children who is in her 30's

I felt some pity for her.

Scott Oglesby said...

“I work hard and I play hard, which is why I get mad hard.” bwahahaha…I’m the same freaking way. Being half Italian and drinking 17 espressos a day probably doesn’t help either. I just can’t stand it when I know for a fact that I’m 100% right about something and people still insist on arguing.

It makes me want to bring a blowtorch to the argument so everyone knows when it’s over.

Scope said...

Was this "random fact" personal or public? ie - This is the crap that the mobile web was designed for. You have an iPhone, get Googling.