Friday, November 14, 2008

Once, Twice, Three Times a Lady....



How many times a week is considered normal? Average? Above average? Just plain pathetic? Down right nasty.? Let's just put it out there to focus group. In order to really answer this age old question, one needs to consider the circumstances. Categorically speaking, lets break it down to two:

There's the coupled group: marrieds, cohabitants, seriously committed's, together forever's and exclusives.

Then there's the singles category: singles, friends with benefits', the promiscuous...'s, serial daters, the sexual adventurers and, of course, sluts and ho's. (both male and female)

Both important and viable categories, but their answers will differ greatly. And may surprise you.
According to Yvonne K. Fulbright, author, sex educator, relationship expert, columnist and founder of Sexuality Source Inc, "90 percent of American men and 94 percent of women are having sex up to five times per week." NO WAY, really???? Does this mean that if you are not a part of this statistic and you are hovering in that lonely 6-10 percent, that you are somehow ABNORMAL?
Dr. Fulbright noted: "(Note: it’s the "up to" part of that survey that makes for the high percentages. Plus, sexually active people may be likelier to participate in this kind of survey)". Makes perfect sense. If your extremely active, then you have no problem shouting it out from the roof tops.

But here is where my "categories" theory takes a hit. It may not be as simple as breaking it down into groups. I found that there are many determining factors that may affect your frequency per week numbers. One of the most common determining factors for measuring the "normality of frequency" found in my research was AGE. Young hormonal boys, newly marrieds or couples that have just gotten together tend to have a much more active sex life than a couple that has been together for a while and people over forty. On the flip side of that, people in their forties are having less sex than people in their twenties, but more sex than people older than them.

We also must take into account the stage of life you are in. Research would suggest that young people, free of major responsibilities; IE; kids, mortgage, career, simply have more time for sex and possibly more opportunity. Whereas just marrieds, starting a family and beginning their careers, and over forties most certainly have the opportunity, but may be too tired to perform all the time. Older, and more established couple's whose kids are grown also have ample opportunity but less desire.

Safe to say there is no"normal" other than what is normal for you and your partner. But, if you want to look at the averages scientifically collected that are out there, the average of frequency that I saw consistently is between 1-3 times per week. According to the Kinsey Institute, the largest group of couples having sex is 69 times per year which averages out to 1.3 times a week.

So really, no need to worry about keeping up with the Joneses.
I'd like to leave you with this cute little tidbit I found on Yahoo answers.com :

Resolved Question:
How many times a week is it normal to have sex?
I have been with my girlfriend for around 6 months, we have sex around 3 or 4 times a week. How many times is normal?
Best Answer - Chosen by Voters
Depends on the age group:
15 - 20 year old = Tri daily (three times a day)
20 - 30 year old = Tri weekly (three times a week)
30 - 40 years old = Tri monthly (three times a month)
40 - 65 year old = "Try oysters"
65 - 80 year old = "Try to Remember"

12 comments:

Poobomber said...

Sex is like work - the less effort you put into it, the more likely you're going to be asked to attend some sort of pathetic retraining course, then eventually be reassigned.

I'm not going to get into personal details, but in terms of time between snoggings, I like to at least get dry between them. I have a fear of trenchpeezer.

whatigotsofar said...

My weekly average is zero and being the prude I am, I think that an average above zero for people other than spouses should be zero.

B.E. Earl said...

I don't like how the study went from 30-40 right to 40-65. WTF? Just because I am 41 I am lumped in with 65 year olds?

Sass said...

Can I get a show of hands. How many of us are still in the 3-4 times a day category?

I'm just sayin'.

*and I'm probably just lyin'.*

Some Guy said...

Assuming our citizenry is as sexual as these studies show, how is it we still blow a collective gasket when Janet Jackson show half a second of nipple on TV? Do we carry that much shame? Something isn't adding up.

Candy's daily Dandy said...

Peebs- the visual on "trenchpeezer" is astounding.

whatigotsofar- prudes are people too!

Earlsie- That's just lettin us 40somehing's know that it's all down hill from here.

Sass- you can't see that my hand DIDN'T go up.

Some guy- the last line of Sass' comment would seem to me to be the common denominator in that equation that's just not adding up. Good point.

Scope said...

I'm still trying to get past the average being "69" times a year.

~E said...

I was gonna really focus on this blog...I really really was for once. But then I got distracted by that teeny picture at the top.

Chic seems to be having major issues with her breasteses area. Right???

Dr Zibbs said...

If any of the female readers need help getting warmed up, I may consider offering some help by phone. I will talk like Ricardo Montelbon so technically it won't be cheating.

Candy's daily Dandy said...

~e- That is too funny! I noticed the same thing and almost didn't post it. My other options were way toO explicit so "crazy breasteses", as you say, got the nod. HAHA!

Joe D. said...

When I get married I'm want to have sex once a day for 56 days in a row to honor Joe DiMaggio's hitting street. A "hittin' it" streak if you will.

Laura said...

Wait was all the people interviewed for this study still on their honeymoon? I want to know if they are all employed. Great post :)