Tuesday, April 24, 2012

"When The Solution Is Simple, God Is Answering," Albert Einstein




Sometimes its hard for me to believe that I have a child going off to college because I still have moments of uncertainty that make me want to crawl into the fetal position and stay there. You see, that's me right now, the little white guy above and I need to come to a decision about a very important part of my life. I need to choose one of those paths and hope to God it's the right one. 

What do you do, when you are faced with a tough decision? How do you handle it? I do the whole pros and cons thing. I'm an old school, pen and paper kind of girl. I literally write out the pros and cons of a situation and try to trigger that "a-ha" moment which will bring me the answer that I have been seeking. It doesn't always work, but I usually end up learning something. 

Making tough decisions can be character building, but it sucks while you are going through the process, and I am going through the process right now. It calls for maturity and critical thinking, none of witch come easily when it's an important decision. My dad always taught me to remove the emotion from the equation and try to look at it from a purely non emotional view point. That's pretty hard to do when the decision you make determines the fate of something you care so deeply about.

I am the most decisive person I know when it comes to frivolous decisions. I can look at a pair of shoes, a lip gloss, eye shadow or handbag and the decision to pair this with that and that with this comes instantly. Never one to waver over fashion choices, I may ask for help occasionally, but I have an innate sense of what is right immediately. Same goes for when the decision has to do with one of my children. Mother's intuition is always there for me when it come to guiding my kids through tough times in life.It may not always be "right", but it is always right for us. So why is it that I can't make an all important life decision for myself instantly? 

Maybe this answer is not meant to come instantly. Maybe the lesson is in the process and finding the answer   is the cherry on the sundae. I sure hope so, because right now I'm still up there looking out over the paths. And I'm thinking about that fetal position thing....

18 comments:

BamaTrav said...

Yea tho I walk through the valley's of the shadow's of death I will fear no evil for though art with me, thy rod and thy staff they comfort me......wait, that's not for this posts. Good luck thinking and stuff. We loves you xoxoxo, whoever "we" are. Or is it whomever? Who gives a shit right?

MarkD60 said...

I think the big decisions are not as important as we think they are. And yhe little ones are moreso.
I think that if a person prays, they have to believe they will get an answer, and see it.

Heff said...

First of all, DON'T follow the RED path, follow the GREEN ONE.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U7atn5Zj5hY

BamaTrav said...

Nah, fuck Heff's suggestion,that's GHEY!! Follow NOT the green, follow THIS one!!!
http://youtu.be/THbY7EL8k5w

Heff said...

Yeah, that's not GHEY AT ALL, LMAO !!

BamaTrav said...

Not.

http://youtu.be/0Gjx-ZQuQ_Y

Heff said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1kwN0jDwNo

BamaTrav said...

http://youtu.be/cBBEv4-mRCc

Heff said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVGcHhzPbiw

BamaTrav said...

Studies show that human error is a factor in 80 percent of navigational accidents and that in many cases the human making the error had access to information that could have prevented the accident. The practice of voyage planning has evolved from penciling lines on nautical charts to a process of risk management.

Heff said...

and then there's THIS -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eWVxLTnkx7c&feature=related

BamaTrav said...

Actually Heff, it's more this one than any of those other ones.

http://youtu.be/3Z2tHyDGIts

Candy's daily Dandy said...

Glad to see you two are talking again....

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sybil law said...

Uh...
I think you'll be fine. I mean, you've done this before, right? If it ISN'T the "right" choice, well - you'll be fine. It will all work out.
it will.
Just relax.
(I am trying to be encouraging but I totally know what you mean! Best of luck!)
xo

the walking man said...

First off Candace a fetal position is only comfortable for a fetus. So get out of the fear of making a mistake zone.

OK you in the fear free zone now?

No? OK I'll wait.












Cool--look kiddo you're well experienced at life and in your life there is no better guide that your own intuition about the right and wrong road. You know what is going to result in the best possible outcome for the main players in this decision. You may not want to choose door number two because you know you will have to let go of something or someone you truly care about, but if that is what needs to happen for the PRIMARY player in the decision to have room to grow and breathe then that is what you have to do, you know it though it be a bitter pill (for you) it will result in the best possible outcome for all concerned.

Scope said...

10 years from now, will you regret doing it, or regret not doing it?

Candy's daily Dandy said...

Thank you everybody..
You always give the best advice...