Sometimes its hard for me to believe that I have a child going off to college because I still have moments of uncertainty that make me want to crawl into the fetal position and stay there. You see, that's me right now, the little white guy above and I need to come to a decision about a very important part of my life. I need to choose one of those paths and hope to God it's the right one.
What do you do, when you are faced with a tough decision? How do you handle it? I do the whole pros and cons thing. I'm an old school, pen and paper kind of girl. I literally write out the pros and cons of a situation and try to trigger that "a-ha" moment which will bring me the answer that I have been seeking. It doesn't always work, but I usually end up learning something.
Making tough decisions can be character building, but it sucks while you are going through the process, and I am going through the process right now. It calls for maturity and critical thinking, none of witch come easily when it's an important decision. My dad always taught me to remove the emotion from the equation and try to look at it from a purely non emotional view point. That's pretty hard to do when the decision you make determines the fate of something you care so deeply about.
I am the most decisive person I know when it comes to frivolous decisions. I can look at a pair of shoes, a lip gloss, eye shadow or handbag and the decision to pair this with that and that with this comes instantly. Never one to waver over fashion choices, I may ask for help occasionally, but I have an innate sense of what is right immediately. Same goes for when the decision has to do with one of my children. Mother's intuition is always there for me when it come to guiding my kids through tough times in life.It may not always be "right", but it is always right for us. So why is it that I can't make an all important life decision for myself instantly?
Maybe this answer is not meant to come instantly. Maybe the lesson is in the process and finding the answer is the cherry on the sundae. I sure hope so, because right now I'm still up there looking out over the paths. And I'm thinking about that fetal position thing....